I’m known to say “nothing happens in a vacuum” – every single action we take or don’t take changes the future.
Most are slight.
It’s why the 2mm rule exists.
If you change your current actions just a smidge, your trajectory experiences a drastic shift.
We can only control our actions. It is in putting good out there that we create ripples of positive energy that stretch far beyond our imagination.
The same goes with negative actions.
The outcome of our behaviours influence those around us – good and bad.
How do we level up?
Don’t participate in the negative. Think big picture.
There was a party recently that I chose not to attend. Was there anything heinous about the event? Likely not. Would it have been “that bad” if I went? Doubt it. Would I have had fun? Possibly. Those are not good reasons to participate.
Reasons or results – can’t have both.
I’m close enough to the people involved to know that we have a drastically different set of values. I’m more of a big picture gal – wanting to raise my frequency and make a positive, lasting impact.
Lasting is the key word.
At first glance – we appear to have a significant amount in common. It is the underlying drivers that are in conflict.
Instant gratification vs long term joy.
I don’t vibe with “for the moment” as a rule. I don’t enjoy fire drills. I know that I am not immune to the ripple effect. No YOLO when it comes to justifying negative behaviours.
I saw a video on social media from the party. Obviously illegal fireworks were being set of at the edge of the woods. A person commented “Aren’t you concerned about the fire hazzard?”. Multiple party goers laughed in response – emphatically stating that they were not at all concerned.
And that is what makes me sick.
Birds of a feather flock together. People like to be around people who support their beliefs. It’s why you constantly hear that your network is your net worth or that you are the sum of your 5 closest friends.
Is it the end of the world that there were fireworks – not at all.
It’s the poisonous mentality that I chose to stay away from. In that mindset boundaries are blown regularly. It’s a world where everything from drug use to infidelity are permissible. It’s a world full of reasons and comparing themselves to people who are vibing lower and declaring themselves better instead of looking above and striving to be more.
I don’t want to live in complacency. So I chose to decline the invitation, multiple times.
I’m not going to sugar coat it – it hurts on many levels. However I stood true to my values and didn’t have that sick feeling of being somewhere that I wasn’t comfortable, doing things I didn’t agree with.
I stayed away from the instant gratification of 4 wheelers through wetlands, fireworks in the woods, recreational drug use, and general irresponsibility last night. And I’m proud of myself.
Instead I caught up with old friends, expanded my knowledge base, discussed business ideas, and planned trips. Came home sober and negotiated some contracts before bed. Setting me up for a win today.
My heart aches for much of the good that was there and for dreams that will never come true.
I’m far from perfect and I can see the slippery slope that erodes my spirit when I let my boundaries slide. My intuition is louder than ever, pushing me to do the work and not fall into the comfort of the chaos.
I want my ripples to be positive. I want my 2mm shift to vibe higher. I want to live each precious day as best I can, and in alignment with my higher power.
I know better and today I choose better.
No judgement. No hate.